Wednesday, September 30, 2009

I Sense a Theme

I was catching up on reading my fellow diet bloggers, when I noticed a theme.

Jack Sh*t Gettin' Fit talks about not being happy or satisfied until he meets his weight loss goals:

Bitch Cakes talks about Emotional Eating:

Prior Fat Girl was feeling a bit Cranky and skipped her work-out:

And T-Rez over at Queen of My Domain was getting a little whine on:

Emotions and how we feel really do effect what we eat, and how we exercise. So we need to recognize that we do sometimes eat or crave a particularly fattening food because we've had a bad day and not because we're hungry.

But beyond recognition of our emotional eating, I think its a good idea to look at why we're feeling the emotions we're feeling in the first place. Instead of using food to try to make ourselves feel better, we should try to, well, just make ourselves feel better.

Now, I am certainly not belittling anyone who has any kind of serious clinical depression, or anyone who has gone through an honest to goodness trauma--like losing a loved one.

But, oftentimes, we do let the little things get the better of us. Life is too damn short to let petty disagreements and problems get in the way of our happiness.

Something I've been leery of revealing here is my son's disability. My son is on the autistic spectrum, and classified as mentally retarded. When you're the parent of a disabled child, you tend to hang out with parents of other disabled children--of which there are two types.

First you get the kind, like me. We have a disabled kid, and we just deal with it. We find the joy that our children present us, and don't fixate on the the difficulties.

Then you get the sad sacks. These are the parents who think their lives are miserable because their children present challenges. These are the parents who root out the "pity givers" and come to meetings with other parents of kids with disabilities just to cry about how awful their lives are.

So, its all in how you view things. Both sets of parents have the same situations and the same challenges. But some of us choose to not focus on the negative, and others can't think of anything but the negative.

But the reality is not only does focusing on the negative make us miserable, it doesn't do a damn thing for our kids.

So, in the end, it's all just wasted emotion.

So, the next time something goes a little wrong in your life and you find yourself going for the box of Ring Dings.

Take a step back, and ask yourself "is it really that bad?"

Chances are it isn't, and you really don't need that Ring Ding.


  1. Thank you for the nod and this is a great blog! You are so right about that. It took me years to change how I think of everything - not just food - but situations. And I've been thinking about this today, I remember my Mom used to tell me that I 'choose to be miserable' and at the time I thought no, I *am* miserable because of x, y, and z. It took me so long to realize she was right. Shit happens. You can't control that. What you can control is your reaction and response to those things.

    On a completely unrelated note, how did you get the reactions boxes to appear on your blog? I found a post that mentioned a blog widgit but I have no idea what that is or how to get it. I tried to insert them via the blogger dashboard but couldn't find them anywhere. If you get a chance can you help me or send me a link? I can't figure it out! Thanks :)

  2. Thanks for the shoutout... and you're right, attitude is everything.

  3. Our oldest is on the spectrum as well. Not sure what will happen as life unfolds, but so far, he's doing well.

  4. Thanks all for the comments.

    Bitch Cakes, one day when I signed on to my Dashboard there was an ad saying I could get comment boxes. I just followed the link, so now I have no idea how I did it.

    Larkspur, all you can do is hope for the best, prepare for the worst. I'm preparing for my son's transition to adulthood now that he's 14 (15 in January).

  5. Thanks for keeping up with my blog.
    I'm a school psychologist in N'Awlins and I have something special in my heart for evaluating indidvuals who are suspected of being on the Autism Spectrum. I just wanted to say congratulations on being a great mom. Transitions are very big in the lives of individuals on the spectrum. You've come this far, I'm sure you're gonna make it to the next phase.